The last six months have been awesome. Amazing clients I’ve never met before are finding me. I’m creating solid and consistent content. My business is growing.
You would think I would be floating with excitement. But I didn't.
Immediately following a talk I gave about confidence, I felt the floor slowly drop out from under me. At the end of the talk, I offered a group coaching program that I had custom built for the group. It was sassy and bold with all of the buzz words I thought this target audience would love. I had some interest and commitments that they would sign up later that day. But no one did.
I was tired and drained, which left the door wide open for my Gremlin to come in with his "words of wisdom".
“How long can you keep this up?”
“You really think people want to work with someone like you?”
“You should just go back to your 9-5.”
“If you’re not making this much money, you should just give up.”
I listened and absorbed the messages I knew weren’t true. I must be a failure. Even after a brand-new client signed up and paid for a 3-month package, I couldn’t shake the feeling. The next day another new client signed on for three months. I felt happy for a moment, but the thoughts lingered.
It all started to shift after sitting in silence and really listening to the message. The messages were right, but I was hearing it wrong.
“How long can you keep this up?” = Take a rest, Lauren. You’re working really hard and deserve to take care of you.
“You really think people want to work with someone like you?” = Everyone is not for you and you are not for everyone. Look at these awesome new clients. This is where you should focus your energy.
“You should just go back to your 9-5.” = Maybe you should look at working more with existing corporations. I’m sure they would love to hear from you.
“If you’re not making this much money, you should just give up.” = Look at how far you’ve come in less than two years. You’ve done this all by yourself. You attract in abundance when you take care of yourself, so you should probably rest.
This is why it's super important to get out of your head. Whatever is swirling around, write it down and then come back to it when you're ready to assign it another value that works for you.